It was my last day at work...
I used to be a corporate slave. My world then before I joined Hubby was home-work-home-work. I tinkered with PET resins, PET preforms and PET bottles. My bestfriends were the gas chromatograph, the burst tester, caliper, universal testing machine, and sodium bicarbonate. Packaging production start was dependent on my test results and analysis so that I had to make the right decisions the first time. It was a tough job, very technical but I immensely enjoyed it.
Me with my colleagues at the Quality Assurance Department.
All of that changed when I moved in with Hubby and we started a new life together. I changed careers and concentrated on being a wife and a mother and Hubby is the main provider. Being a stay at home mom is very different work from what I am used to: very domesticated yet very challenging nonetheless. One has to balance the books and maintain the budget, keep the household running without running out of tissue paper and toothpaste and salt, keeping mealtimes something to look forward to - all this while trying to keep your sanity intact and your relationship "alive and kicking".
Hubby always calls when he is on his way home. He would always ask how we are and I would just summarize it for him and tell him some details when he has finally arrived home safely. I also would ask him how his day went. We would usually talk about our day during dinner or after I have done my chores. Of course, as a married couple, we all have our moments. If something at work was not right, he would share it with me and I would try to encourage him. Sometimes, things here at home stress me out too and because I am not the talking type, he would just let me be until I am ready to share with him. Hubby knows me inside and out, so that he can readily tell if something is bothering me or not. We do talk, after I have cleared my mind or after anger has subsided.
I think the other important things in a marriage, aside from love and respect, are open communication and being sensitive to each other's feelings. If the other one needs some space, it would be best to let them be for a while. Otherwise, words that are best left unspoken are spoken. And no, I do not "add insult to injury" especially when I know that Hubby has had a bad day. I don't want to add up to the burden.
How about you? Do you ever share how your day went work with your spouses? Share them with us!